Confession: I really dislike New Year’s Resolutions. They’re too grandiose, come with way too much pressure, and for over 90% of us they fail. Yet without fail, every January 1st we are all inclined to make a resolution. I want you to stop making New Year’s Resolutions! Stop setting yourself up for failure. Instead I want to introduce you to the idea of daily mini habits, and why they lead to lasting, sustainable change.
What should you do instead?
Instead of resolutions I want you to build mini habits. I recently took an online course about making mini habits. For the last two months I’ve been using some of those concepts to make changes in my personal life that have been bothering me. Namely picking up after the tornado that is my two boys and doing dishes more frequently. We have a 3rd little boy arriving early April so getting these two things under better control will help save my sanity.
Why am I doing mini habits vs. resolutions?
Think about when you build a house or a construction company builds a new skyscraper. What is the single most important thing that needs to happen after the blueprints are approved? You need a solid foundation. Without a solid foundation, no matter how structurally sound the rest of the building is, you will still have instability. One major life event and that building can crumble.
Mini habits are you building a solid foundation upon which to build deeper, more complex healthy habits.
How do you choose what mini habits to start?
The first thing you need to do is figure out what your big goals are. Do you want to eat healthier? What does that mean to you? Do you want to increase your strength or endurance? From there, pick one to two stupid simple things you can do to start making you way to achieving those goals.
For example, with my goal of staying on top of dishes I made it a mini goal of mine to wash one dish every day. The idea is to make the mini habit so small that it is impossible to fail, even on the days that life happens.
One tip: do not increase your daily mini habit goal! It’s really easy to let your ego get in the way and start increasing that daily mini habit goal. You see this frequently in those month-long fitness challenges. The downfall of that strategy is while you’re working on building a new habit, you’re increasing your minimum requirement. When life happens – as you know it will – you can miss a single day and completely derail any progress you previously made.
Check out some more information about mini habits in a video I did recently.
A final reminder, stop making large resolutions where building a foundation is a challenge and instead develop mini habits to help you reach your overall goals. What is one of your major goals you want to achieve this year? What are one to two daily mini habits you can develop that will help you reach that goal?
If you’re looking to make lasting changes in your health, contact me for your FREE 30-minute consultation. We will discuss your most pressing health concerns and will leave with at least one action step to help you move forward towards your goal.